As we gain a better idea of the biology and chemistry of love, scientists have been able to determine that there are, in fact, noticeable health benefits. There is evidence that the experience of being in a loving relationship involves various neurotransmitters and hormones that affect the body on a systematic level. This connection is seen when exploring research in this area related to anxiety, stress management, and depression. Furthermore, research shows the crucial importance of secure relationships in the development of coping skills. Accordingly, social isolation is linked to higher rates of depression and anxiety, and psychologists have concluded that encouraging patients to form stable, secure, and loving relationships aids in recovery from common mental illnesses.
The Central Paradox of Love: Esther Perel on Reconciling the Closeness Needed for Intimacy with the Psychological Distance That Fuels Desire
“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. One does not exist without the other.”
Although our real-life partners may deviate from our ideals (just as our own looks or personality characteristics may deviate from the ideals we hold for ourselves), we can be perfectly happy with our imperfect mates.
Having a mental illness in itself is hard without the added worry of how it could affect another person should the relationship discussion arise.
This raises a paradox when it comes to dating choices: If most people say they want secure partners, how and why do they end up with insecure partners? Could it be that insecure individuals use certain strategies to help them attract potential dates?
New research provides evidence that partners are more similar in psychiatric status than chance would predict.
It turns out that I’m not alone in this reaction to stress – and marital divorce. According to some research, divorce is the second most stressful life event one can experience (second only to death of a spouse1). Both men and women tend to gain weight once they get married, but divorce typically results in Read more
Again and again, I talk with young adults whose actions don’t line up with their stated intentions, desires, and beliefs. They seem to have difficulty quieting the outer noise, tuning into their inner values, beliefs, and emotions, and using that awareness to guide their behavior in their intimate relationships.
The approach I’ve developed, Relationship Life Therapy (RLT), is based on the premise that it’s disrespectful to clients not to let them in on the truth about what we witness regularly in our offices as they play out their relationships in front of us: the ways they deal with their partners are often self-centered, unfeeling, Read more
But new research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggests that quite aside from any practical value of understanding, simply feeling understood can nullify conflict’s impact – or even allow it to improve relationships.
Among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.
A new emergency department study from the University of Michigan Injury Center looks deeper at risk and protective factors among teenagers who report dating violence and alcohol use.
Because I’m open about my experience and have written about it for various websites, most of my partners date me with the knowledge that I have preexisting mental health issues. Most of them have been understanding. Some of them haven’t.
If you have assembled a piece of Ikea furniture with a partner, then you have probably argued with a partner about assembling a piece of Ikea furniture.
Anybody who has ever been in a romantic relationship knows that they can be a source of euphoria and delight. But, have you ever considered whether your romantic relationship could actually physically energize you? Research published in 2014 by Sarah Stanton, Lorne Campbell, and Timothy Loving suggests that it can.
It should come as no surprise then that couples’ Facebook behavior has attracted the attention of relationships researchers in recent years. This – the match between ‘real’ and Facebook lives — might lead one to wonder – just how much do partners’ Facebook profiles reflect their real experiences as a couple?